{"id":154881,"date":"2023-05-17T08:51:29","date_gmt":"2023-05-17T06:51:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.erasmusmagazine.nl\/en\/?p=154881"},"modified":"2025-12-19T11:26:47","modified_gmt":"2025-12-19T10:26:47","slug":"cute-boys-and-other-existential-worries","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.erasmusmagazine.nl\/en\/2023\/05\/17\/cute-boys-and-other-existential-worries\/","title":{"rendered":"Cute boys and other existential worries"},"content":{"rendered":"

One spring afternoon, I sat patiently waiting to get a TBE vaccine due to an increase of the disease-bearing ticks in Sweden. But instead of pondering over this worrisome situation, or thanking the inventor of the vaccine, I found myself instead daydreaming about the potentiality of the nurse being a cute guy.<\/p>\n

\"\"

\n\t\n\n<\/svg>\n<\/span>\n\tImage by:<\/span>\n\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tLevien Willemse<\/a>, \t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tPauline Wiersema<\/a>\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t<\/p>\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>

Why was I having these unchristian thoughts you ask? I\u2019m sure you could\u2019ve figured that out if you happen to be one of the big tech companies that my menstrual cycle app sells my data to.<\/p>\n

Unread terms and conditions aside, the nurse left me a little disappointed. I don\u2019t mean in terms of not decreasing the risk of the viral infection attacking my central nervous system, but in terms of boy cuteness. It was a middle-aged woman.<\/p>\n

As I left the vaccine center, I wondered if the disappointment was perhaps my fault, and not the nurse\u2019s. Maybe I was the one who hadn\u2019t adjusted my expectations to reality. So, when I got home, I asked ChatGPT:<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat are the odds that a cute male nurse, aged 25-32 and physically attracted to women, is the one to vaccinate you against TBE?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\t

\n\t\t
\n\t\t\t
\n\t
\n\t\t\u2018ChatGPT believed that I oversimplified the human experience\u2019\n\t<\/blockquote>\n\n\t<\/figure>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n

ChatGPT answered that it could not provide an accurate calculation due to the subjective nature of my question. It also got on its cognitive computing moral high horse (not unlike those baristas who ask if you want oat milk or cow<\/em> milk) and added that it believed that I oversimplified the human experience.<\/p>\n

This passive aggressive answer made me think of an extract from Jean Paul Sartre\u2019s book Being and Nothingness<\/em>. One day, Sartre went to a caf\u00e9 to meet his friend Pierre. However, when he spotted that Pierre wasn\u2019t there, suddenly, the only thing Sartre could see was his absence. The French philosopher was so struck by the negation of Pierre that it overwhelmed the entire spectacle of the caf\u00e9. Yet, it was only by expecting to see Pierre, that he became so sad that he didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\t

\n\t\t
\n\t\t\t
\n\t
\n\t\t\u2018I\u2019m only human. Sometimes I wish for cute boys, and sometimes I choose cow milk\u2019\n\t<\/blockquote>\n\n\t<\/figure>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n

This quite traumatic experience got Sartre to conclude that the absence of something can become the focal point of our perception, and as we confront the void left by that expectation, it will inevitably lead us to question the nature of our reality and existence.<\/p>\n

My vaccinated arm started aching, and I let out a deep sigh. I felt the need to explain myself and started typing out a response to Chat GPT:<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m only human, okay? Sometimes I wish for cute boys, and sometimes I choose cow milk. I\u2019m not oversimplifying the human experience, I\u2019m living it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\t

\n\t\t\n\t\t
\n\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t

Read more<\/h2>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t